We cannot help the situations that traumatized us as children.

Those things are not our fault.

However, as adults, we have to learn from that, let it go and move on.

Everyone suffered some kind of abuse in some form growing up. No ones trauma is worse than anybody elses, trauma is trauma. Of course there are degrees, but that doesnt make ones trauma more than someone elses. Its not a contest.

This doesnt give you the right to take out your anger and frustration on those close to you.

You wouldnt treat a boss or friend with that kind of behaviour, stop treating those close to you that way.

You stopped being a victim when you start treating others the same way you were treated when you were a child.

As an adult you have the power to change and be better than your abusers, you have to decide to change.

Iether you are happy staying the victim or you have to change to stop it, its very simple.

Continuing the same patterns your abusers used on you is repeating the abuse.

Stop the cycle!!

It was to wet to go out and play.

It rained and rained,

It rained all day.

There we sat as we looked outside.

We were so bored, we didnt want to hide.

There we sat just us two,

We wanted to play games

Instead we cried "Boo hoo!"

We wanted to run and play in the sun.

We wanted to jump and have some fun.

The rain kept falling the sun didnt come.

The water was rising, we were afraid we may drown without having fun.

Mother and father came in with some gear!

They said

"Come on ladds, lets go make cheer!"

We put on rain boots, a rain coat and hat,

then we went outside just like that!

We stomped in puddles, we splashed and we played, we pretended we were duckies having fun in the rain!

Mother and Father said "Okay sweethearts we've played long enough, it time to go in, its time to clean up!"

Then after supper all tucked in our beds, after we said our prayers,

Mother and Father kissed our foreheads.

"Sweet dreams and angels kisses!" Said our Mum. "Tomorrow we can play out in the Sun!"

Deona Hand Boyle

2025

It was to wet to go out and play.

It rained and rained,

It rained all day.

There we sat as we looked outside.

We were so bored, we didnt want to hide.

There we sat just us two,

We wanted to play games

Instead we cried "Boo hoo!"

We wanted to run and play in the sun.

We wanted to jump and have some fun.

The rain kept falling the sun didnt come.

The water was rising, we were afraid we may drown, no fun.

Mother and father came in with some gear!

They said

"Come on ladds, lets go make cheer!"

We put on rain boots, a rain coat and hat,

then we went outside just like that!

We stomped in puddles, we splashed and we played, we pretended we were duckies having fun all day!

Mother and Father said "Okay sweethearts we've played long enough, it time to go in, its time to clean up!"

Then after supper all tucked in our beds, after we said our prayers,

Mother and Father kissed our foreheads.

"Sweet dreams!" Said our Mum. "Tomorrow we can play out in the Sun!"

Deona Hand Boyle

2025

I need to get this off of my chest. Its been eating me up for a while now.

I had four sons, two of whom are gay. When they were all very young, I knew I didnt want to be the kind of Conservative Christian mother who was intolerant of my sons choices in life. I saw too many families torn apart over life choices, and gay children dying of AIDS alone without thier families just because they were gay.

I love all of my sons with every piece of my being. I wasnt going to let anything stop me from loving them, gay or not.

I supported all of my sons in everything they did weather it was band, football, art, or baseball. I even embarassed them because I was the loudest mom in the stands cheering for them out on the field.

I accepted when my sons came out, I accepted the thier friends, allowed thier friends to come over, they even thought I was a cool mom for a bit.

Thats not to say that i didnt loose my temper with all of them. There were a couple times I really lost my temper, once I threw some dishes because I was so angry, (not at them)the other I broke a chair. I was spanked as a kid, so when they were young I thought spanking was right, but i stopped when I realized there were better ways of handling punishment, they were all under ten years old by then.

I wasnt a very mature mother, I was 20 when my youngest son was born, admitedly I made so many mistakes. How many times do i have to apologize to make up for my mistakes?

My now grown 38 yr old married gay son, informed me that even though i took him and his brothers away from thier abusive, alcaholic father, that I continued the abuse.

I asked what he meant, he brought up what I mentioned, and that he was made to clean as if he was the only one who had chores.

We all had chores, dishes, laundry, trash. Simply picking up the house. I thought i was instilling responsablity so they would grow up being decent adults. I had rules and I enforced them.

Somewhere, Somehow I have failed because this now 38 yr old has decided that I am a narcisist and he has cut me out of his life.

This started when I spoke out on some political views that he disagrees with.

The thing is, Im not the only mom with an adult child having this issue. I know others out there who have expressed similar issues with thier adult children.

Im so lost. I love my children, even this one but i dont know what to do anymore....

Those who can see, let them see those who can hear let them hear, those who can understand it all are the wise ones. Those who can live without fear, let them stand steadfast. Those who can see the future from the past, let them ring the alarms. May it be a prevention of repeating the same mistakes over again.

Until minds are changed to do better, without hatered for another, without greed, without fear, humanity is doomed to repeat the same mistakes and regrets until you get it right.

Until you see and right the wrongs of the past generations and start caring more for the lives and wellbeing of your children, everyones children, this corrupted system will be repeated.

Those who can read and comprehend, let them understand life much better than we did...

When Jack and Jill met in college, they had thier whole lives ahead of them. Everyone thought thier marriage would last forever. They were a great couple, made a sweet family and endured several hardships together.

However, time and deppression takes a toll on a marriage.

After thirty years Jacks deppresion and pain from a car accident that killed Jills mother, caught up with him. Jill over the years tried to encourage Jack to get counceling, but he refused. He didnt think anything was wrong with him. He withdrew into himself, became addicted to porn and wouldnt even acknowlege Jill when she got home from work.

When it becomes more lonely being at home than it is being at work, its not a marriage anymore. Its a roomate situation. Jill tried everything she could to fix things.

Marriage though, takes two people working together trying to fix things, not one. Jill had enough, after all the years of trying to get Jack to get help, beeing the only means of money, and living with somone who gave up on himself, Jill filed for divorce.

She didn't file because she found someone new, she filed because she couldnt keep trying to save a dying relationship. How long are you supposed to be missrable and lonely in a relationship thats no longer a real marriage. Jack and Jill no longer wanted the same things out of life. Someone had to move on and Jill took that initiative because Jack was happy being stuck and miserable.

In this kind of situation what else can you do?

Feminism and Socialist comunism have lied to you.

They told women that you are weak unless you cut your hair and become more masculine. They told women that having children was a bad thing and that taking pride in motherhood and homemaking were signs of that weakness.

They made women believe that they are made exactly like a man and that women can do "everything" a man can do.

It is a biological truth that women are engineered biologically different than men. Women can tolerate pain, and handle the complexities of home and family better than men in most cases.

Women and girls, you have forgotten your true purpose in this life!

You are the life bringers, the caregivers, the nurturers of life! You hold the very existence of humanity within you! You are half of the whole, it takes two, only two, male and female to create another human being. This is a fact, not another delusion the social agenda wants you to believe.

Life bringers shouldnt be involved in the murder of the innocent who have no voice in this life.

Take pride in bringing life and creating healthy children who grow in love and spiritual awareness that they matter, thier lives matter and that everything they do makes a difference.

You are important in bringing up strong men who are confident in thier masculenity. It is up to the mothers and wives to suport these real men so that they thrive through the lies of todays society, the society that tears down masculin values. Hold fast to these truths and stay strong enough to endure the trials of this point in time.

We have to break through the lies and brainwashing of the socialist construct or humanity will not survive.

Now i lay me down to sleep,

I pray the Lord my soul to keep.

Yet as i lay here sleep wont come

The demons of the night

Deny me some.

My mind it races to many places

But mostly now, regrets i faces.

Why didnt i do what should have been done?

I should have insisted, now i have none.

Now i face severe qonsequences.

Worry about what will become.

My future doesnt hold much promise now

As I lay my head and humbly bow.

Ive been seeing ads on regular tv for this Organization, HelpFightHate.org.

They ask for your money to help them promote the anti- conservative agenda. The add talks about fighting bigotry and discrimination against specifically black and brown people. Also mentions the disabled briefly.

It brings up that many people are "loosing" thier voting rights. This is a false claim, since no one is loosing the right to vote. Only non citizens are not allowed to vote. Also, what is wrong with proving your citizenship and being present at the voting polls. There are some exceptions, but leagal exceptions. The USA set the standards of voting when this country began, made amendments as we evolved, and continue to evolve as humans.

It is a disservice this organization/Charity is fooling vulnerable citizens into believing halftruths without all information.

The last time I checked, people of color have just as many rights and oportunities as white men, and some are better off than most white people. Nothing wrong with that except pushing the adgenda that people of color are still disadvantaged as they were 50 years ago. This promotes hate and division instead of trying to heal it.

Healing the country requires bringing people together pointing out all the good qualities we have, not dividing because of skin color.

Try not to fall for this Hate Trap.

Back in June 2017, the online charity profiler GuideStar announced that it was going to include SPLC’s discredited “hate-group” designation on the profiles of 46 conservative nonprofit organizations, most of which take socially conservative positions on the definition of marriage. Dees had successfully been using the unfair “hate-group” label to raise a lot of money for SPLC. To put it, ahem, charitably, SPLC seemed to place successful fundraising on a higher plane of importance than living up to its founding principles.