“Why are you still single?”

So I got asked that question today and I thought to myself, can you even ask that? 

Like what do expect me to say- I have this one guy in mind and I just waiting for the right time? Well, truth be told no one's ever asked me? I'm a sex slave and my contract doesn't allow me to have boyfriends? 

But like is that even a question? if there was something serious in past stopping me from 

finding a guy then why I would tell you- a random stranger!

I just laughed this silly question off- I just haven't found the right guy- but then I thought about and it's been playing on my mind,

I've gone over my past relationships and my almost relationship and truth be told:

Put a guy in front of me that I am not sexually attracted too, that's in a relationship, that I think is out my 'league', or that is gay, and I will be my self. Then I will go back to my group of girlfriends and they will be like "You, know he's ugly/he has a girlfriend/  he's gay right?- why are you flirting with him?" and my honest to god reaction inside and out is I was flirting? ummm no I was just talking, having a laugh, a dance, a good time.

On the other hand

Put a guy in front of me that I am sexually attracted too, that's not in a relationship, that I think I could 'get' in reality, or even someone that I know that likes me that way I cease up- I won't talk, I won't dance, I won't even laugh or make eye contact.

This has got me into a few awkward conversations with males I just want as friends (and one female), and let countless potential people I could have been perfectly happy with slip by.

Is it just me or do other people out there get it?

How do you over come that?

Oh and by the way, drink don't work; I've tried that.