Recovery Recipe

First, give it time. Be patient with yourself. Believe that one day, the thought of them won't make you feel hurt, angry, or alone.

Give it time.

Loss is a natural part of gain. Knowing this doesn't always help when you lose someone. Whether its death or just the end of your relationship with them, you've lost someone, and you are permitted to grieve in whatever way you need.

Be patient with yourself.

The best way I've found to take the next step into a life without them, is to find a part of yourself that didn't belong to that relationship. A part that was just you. A part that you like. Hold on to it and cherish it, or find something new that doesn't remind you of them. You don't have to be good at it, but it should be good for you. Don't start drinking heavily or smoking or sleeping around... Unless you already were.

It helps to have a friend or two around, but talking about it becomes counter productive rather quickly. Don't overdo it.

Believe that one day, the thought of them won't make you feel hurt, angry, or alone.

I would advise against acting on volatile emotions until then. Unless you are the kind of person who enjoys hurting people, you would probably regret it. And acting against your nature is not the way to reclaim your independence or your identity. Put those feelings into a creative outlet -- write, draw, or just sweat them out.

This is my recipe for recovery:

- Give it time.

- Be patient with yourself.

- And believe that you will recover.

Whatever that means for you, I wish you luck.

Cheers.